How To Be Wanted

Synopsis:

Author Romy Miller offers her spin on the dating world in her book, 'How To Be Wanted.' This guide comprises of no less than fifty-six chapters dedicated to advising women on how to improve their dating skills by following the 'Law of Attraction.' Miller produced this phrase to guide women away from common relationship and dating errors by injecting confidence into her female readers and supplying them with the necessary advice to excel in the dating circuit. Readers are guaranteed success in the 'Law of Attraction', the understanding of it essential to any working relationship. Miller wows her audience by applying her law to all aspects of everyday life, making her book not only applicable to finding love but also operating as a confidence building guide.

Reviewers comments:

At the beginning of this book, the publisher and the author both disclaim accountability to anyone's actions after reading this book and state that it is not written as a substitute to medical and/or psychological advice. This disclaimer pretty much sums up the reliability of this book - Zero. Romy Miller has no experience in dating as a profession and thus no authority to make several of her lofty statements. Consequently, this 'review' is more like a critique.

The front cover of this book is basic, bold and to the point. Exactly what a dating guide should offer. The title reads, "How To Be Wanted." This sounds like one of the best, accessible, sensible go-to dating books that the market has to offer... How very, very wrong I was.

The front cover should portray a wanted sign for Miller's crimes against the English/American language! Her 'guide' (if you could call it that) is knee deep in grammatical errors, approximately eight typing mistakes (unacceptable for a published document) and several unforgiveable contradictions, including an evident lack of basic understanding between the plural and singular.

Miller contradicts her own ideas when she strongly advises women to be active in their search for romance. However, she later goes on to warn women of the dangers of asking a man out and forbids women from mentioning 'marriage' at any stage of the relationship. She claims that men should prove they want you by asking you out on a date. These confusing contradictions show that this is book does not contain a clear strategy, capable of guiding women to relationship success.

Let's move on to what Miller depicts as the 'Law of Attraction', such a promising concept in the synopsis.  In brief, this 'law' functions by the central principle of 'like attracts like' which has led Miller to believe that any woman can get what she wants. The theory also assumes that every man will like you as long as you're positive and what you want in life is simple to achieve! How naive could one be? Honestly, after reading this book from front to back, I still have no idea how the 'law of attraction' could work. However, what is clear in this guide is that the 'Law of Attraction' is not a single, simple law that is applicable to the average relationship. Instead the 'law of attraction' is an indefinable, lofty phrase, comprising of several contradicting statements. Again Miller's inability to express her views to her audience depreciates this book as a clumsy, unknowledgeable excuse for a dating guide. 

Despite all the negative comments I have made about this guide, some of her remarks are relevant and helpful to readers. For example she frequently encourages her female readers to have confidence in themselves because if they don't love themselves then who will? This is exactly the advice that every women needs and I commend Miller on encouraging female self-confidence.

However, the fact that Miller has squeezed 56 chapters into a measly 154 pages is evidence that the guide lacks any structure. Also, regrettably, Miller was unable to present anywhere near 56 ideas in her ambitious 56 chapters! Like several other authors of relationship guides, she fails to connect her information to the reader and instead constantly repeats the same useless information but attempts to disguise it by rephrasing the sentence. Who is she fooling? Anyone can use the 'synonyms' button on Microsoft Word! 

Consequently, this dating guide ended up including two pointless, repetitive chapters on 'fear,' which failed to relate to the dating world. At times, this guide replicates a self -help book rather than a dating book as intended, showing that Miller has no idea who her target audience is. One minute she's writing with a friendly, colloquial tone and the next she is stern, demanding and using more imperatives than adjectives and nouns!

Who should read it?

No one. This 'guide' has no strategy, structure or original ideas and continues to ride the same, flat wave known as the indefinable 'law of attraction.' If I haven't managed to deter you from buying this book then I don't know what will!